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 im due in aug and currently at 22 weeks with my sec child, i am a cook and the only one there its a very active constant job and alredy my back kills after work and leg cramps but not offering alternant job(i no they say you should but dont even go there with that one god) i only do 3 /4 days a weeks 9 hours a day, i have a son at nursery and partner dose full time im sooooo tierd after working but feel as if i would be wimping out or taking eary m/l too soon help anyone else worried or same as me help me????

hi, i am 27 weeks gone with my 2nd baby and feel exactly the same way i work in a playgroup so busy all day, but knackered when i get home. I am sure i was never this tired with the 1st and worked right up till a few weeks before with him, but am ready to give up already with this one although the plan was to stick it out till a week before so as i could have more time after she is born, am confused too as to what i should do for the best? i know it's no much help, but is good to know that i'm not the only one feeling like this, hope it all goes ok for u x

Hi, i am 24 weeks with my third child and have already stopped work. I work in a school and although i could carry on until the end of May/early June (whit week) I have complications which mean the baby will be delivered between 30 and 36 weeks. With my first, i finished work on the friday and she was born on the saturday  - although she was 4 weeks early!. With my second I finished slightly earlier, about 34 weeks, but he didnt arrive until 43 weeks! i definately felt more tired with my second than my first and this time round feel more tired than I did with my second, but I am older this time round!  My eldest is 12 and my youngest is 6!!

To help with not using up all my mat leave with my second child I took annual leave both before and after maternity leave, could this be an option with you? when i had my other two children, you only had 12 weeks paid mat leave not 26 as it is now, so I did that to help make up the extra time.  Luckily i wasnt working in schools when i had the other two, as this now isnt an option. Not sure if this helps. Jill, brood and 24 week bump x

hi. i worked upto 38weeks with both mine. demanding job as a carer. i had a risk assesment. a few jobs were taken off me at my request and jobs where i was with another carer for her to do the hard work like moving machinery. you may not want to go there but you've got to, this is yours and your baby's health. it is law they help you. they have no choice. they could start looking at hireing now for your maternity leave, set them on now and you could job share for a while with them. 

if your not prepared to take it up with them, when and if you decide to go back to work how will you go about getting the hours your entitled to then? if they know you'll not do anything now, you'll have no chance when you go back.

if it's all too much take early leave.

Hi. I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant with my second. When I had my first I had a very demanding job and so decided to leave at 36 weeks as it all got too strssful. This time with a not so demanding job and a two year old, I am so tired I'd give up tomorrow if I could! The second seems so much harder.  

I agree with Caa206. If they are treating you like this now, how are they going to treat you on your return? I know it is easier said than done though. I am currently being treated awfully at work since I became pregnant. Luckily they are just making me miserable rather than risking mine or my babies health. Every day I go into work and decide that this is the day I will stand up for myself and complain, but I never do. I fear it will make things worse. As it's yours and your babies health at stake I would say something and not let them force you into taking leave earlier than you want to if it will cause you financial problems.  

I wish you lots of luck. You really shouldn't being going through this.