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Hi there, well, i'm just over 6 weeks pregnant and single.....the father and i have known each other a few years but we've never got passed the "just sex" phase if that makes sense.  I've told him about the baby and said that he can be involved if he wants, to which he's having difficulty deciding.  He keeps telling me that i'm doing the wrong thing, that I will regret it and that everyone will hate him.

I feel bad for not giving him a choice but he's more interested in what people will think of him and if his new girlfriend (of 3 weeks) will dump him! 

He's in touch everyday asking how i am but then ends it by telling me how stupid i am!!!  I've told him that if he doesnt stop pressuring me then i dont want him involved, to which he says i'm being difficult.  I'm 100% certain I want this baby, with or without but it int half scary.............anyone else as scared as me???? what if my baby hates me for doing this on my own???????? xx

hi ok first you are giving him a choice to be involed is your body ur baby                                                     your not stupid for wanting yor baby many people bring up children on their own

every1 is scared so your nt n your own there

and your bab will not hate you for doing it on your own

ifyou need someone to tal to or scream and moan at you can to me if u like i think it always helps :) x

Hiya. Please don't be pushed into doing anything you will regret, by the sounds of things you have decided you want this baby. If you do you will regret this for the rest of your life and it's really not worth it for the sake of him saving face.

He really shouldn't be putting his feelings for his girlfriend of 3 weeks before yours. I'm sure he wasn't interested in what people thought for the last two years so why start now. You sound like a very strong and independant person who is very determined, you may feel scared ( we all do for different reasons) but I'm sure you will be a fantastic mother. Your baby will never have known any different and will never judge you for it. Stay strong and stick to your guns.  Kerry, 2 boys and 25 week pink bump. x

Hi girls, thanks for the advice!  You're both right,  i'm not doing this to please him i'm doing this because i want to and it's the right thing to do :-)  I've not heard from him for a couple of days so i guess he's off licking his wounds somewhere!!! As long as he doesnt lick them around me i'm fine!!!

Bloody men are bigger babies than babies themselves, without sounding selfish he'll live, his life doesnt have to change if he doesnt want it to........personally i cant wait for my life to change :-) xxxxxxxxx